OMG. Bridal Body Paint!

In my search for a photo to illustrate another blog post I came across these images of three couples getting body painted with their wedding outfits. A new trend towards saving money on wedding wear? Not so. This is reality tv at it's best/worst.

The three couple were taking part in GMTV's Battle of the Brides competition with the chance to win an all expenses paid dream wedding. They were asked to strip down for this challenge and wear nothing but body paint and a strategically placed accessory or two, all in the middle of central London. View the original article here

Their expressions in this group photo are priceless for the mix of discomfort and chagrin.

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Gay marriage in China. It's not what you think

I often enjoy a spot of BBC-browsing to keep up with the British view on what's going on in the world. I nearly choked on my cup of tea when I happened on this article from last year: Sham marriages for Shanghai's gay community. According to the article, up to 80% of China's gay community end up in fake straight marriages (most often with other homosexuals) thanks to China's apparent fear of the great pink danger.

Surely not, I thought. I know that Oscar Wilde was married to a woman for society's sake but for the same thing to be happening still today surprised me. A quick Google search yields this article on Slate which seems to back up what the BBC article reports.

It is no secret that China doesn't quite get the whole gay thing. Homosexuality was officially considered a psychiatric disorder in China until 2001. Fascinating... I wonder if one could claim from medical insurance for this ailment. According to both the Slate and the BBC articles, homosexual individuals have taken to attending in-person and online networking events with others like them and finding a partner of the opposite gender to marry and avoid having to confront or worse, shame their parents!

Seems like the world has a long way to go. I look forward to all the feathers, flamboyance & flair of the future!

Hey DIY Bride: be your own DJ with the WeddingDJ app

We at Wedful are not only in the business of providing couples with tools for their own weddings, but also smack-in-the-middle of planning a wedding or two of our own. Our attention was piqued recently when we heard about the My WeddingDJ app. It's an iPhone / iPod app that lets you setup multiple playlists ahead of time: something for in the chapel, something for while dinner is being served... something to boogie too for once everyone has sampled enough of the wedding wine ;) Also, it is sensitive to all sorts of wedding etiquette (no jerky music stops, always fade-outs and fade-ins) that the inexperienced wedder would usually not even have considered.

I've been thinking a lot lately about how personal music is to most couples. Everyone has a song or two that carries some meaning (too soppy for this blog? Naaaaw!!). I think we can all agree that it is a cringeworthy thing to imagine bad or inappropriate music being belted out to a room of our closest friends and family, and some arbitrary associates of the parents on both sides.

This is the app's description on iTunes:

My WeddingDJ by Steam Clock SoftwareMy WeddingDJ is the best way to run the music for your wedding on your iPhone or iPod touch.

Running your music on an iPod can be great, but not if the wrong song comes on or the music cuts out. That's why WeddingDJ helps you plan out all the music you need at your wedding, using the songs and playlists you have in iTunes. When the big day comes, you hand it off to your MC, who simply needs to slide "next" for each part of your wedding.

The features of this app as listed on iTunes are:

  • Lets you use and build on existing playlist
  • Suggests parts of your wedding you need music for
  • Fades gracefully for all pauses and skips
  • Protects ypu from accidentally skipping or pausing music
  • Lets your friends add song suggestions
    I haven't figured out yet if this is a feature I like...!
  • In certain instances the app will pause between songs or playlists
  • Low battery warning, and call-receiving warning
  • Graceful recovery if your device is sync'd while it's playing
  • Lets you ignore songs from your list if you so choose
    It's ok, we know you had to throw some Bon Jovi onto that list to keep your partner happy... we don't judge.
  • Lets you mix it up and change your playlists while the wedding is playing
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My WeddingDJ is the love child of Steam Clock Software who are a Vancouver startup just like ourselves.

Have you used this app at your wedding? Please tell us about it! It's rated 4+ and I'm considering it for our own wedding.

Gay marriage in South Africa - yes, we welcome you!

"I now pronounce you wife and wife. You may now kiss the bride, make decisions on each other's behalf, inherit if a partner dies and legally adopt."

Gay Marriage

Damn straight! So to speak.

On the 1st December 2006 South Africa joined an elite group. Our government made a just, democratic and impressive decision. We became one of five countries worldwide to legalize same-sex marriage.

This is an extract from Defense Minister Mosiuoa Lekota’s appeal to parliament before the vote took place:

"We are bound to fulfill the promises of democracy which we made to the people of our country," he said. "Are we going to suppress this so-called minority, or are we going to let these people enjoy the privilege of choosing who will be their life partners?

"I take this opportunity to remind the House that in the long and arduous struggle for democracy very many men and women of homosexual or lesbian orientation joined the ranks of the liberation and democratic forces.

"How then can we live with the reality that we should enjoy rights that together we fought for side by side, and deny them that?

"Today, as we reap the fruits of democracy, it is only right that they must be afforded similar space in the sunshine of our democracy … This country cannot afford to continue to be a prisoner of the backward, timeworn prejudices that have no basis."

This address gives me warm fuzzies. It also gives me hope. A lot of bad decisions have been made in our years of democracy. A lot of scandal has gone down. With the introduction of BEE certification, it looked as if equality was going to be a forced effort, like a tipping of the scales to the opposite extreme rather than to the middle. And the bill was not passed without opposition. The African Christian Democratic Party and the Freedom Front Plus both vehemently opposed the bill:

"Traditional marriages in which one man and one woman create a lasting community pass on time-honoured family values to secure the future and therefore are worthy of protection." – ACDP justice critic Steve Swart.

A South African gay rights group promptly labeled this as "sexual apartheid" and people in power were forced to see the parallels.

In the Constitutional Court's December 2005 ruling, Judge Albie Sachs highlighted this parallel: He said that slavery had lasted for a century and a half in South Africa, colonialism for twice as long, the prohibition of interracial marriages for even longer, and overt male domination for millennia.

All were based on apparently self-evident biological and social facts; all were sanctioned by religion and imposed by law. - Judge Albie Sachs

Now, along with Canada, the Netherlands, Spain and Belgium, South Africa has become a haven for weddings with two little sugar brides or grooms on top of the wedding cake. More than 3,000 same-sex couples have been married in South Africa so far. It is a beautiful thing when a democratic government actually acts like one.

Tracy is a South African social documentary photographer who has won numerous awards, been featured in magazines and had her work exhibited internationally.